The rules behind
your decisions.
Personal coaching in English with Piernicola De Maria.
Try an exercise on a rule you use in your own life.
Put it into words
Which rules do you
always try to follow?
Open the rules worksheet These questions are for reflection.
You do not receive a score.
What counts as
a possible choice?
Suppose you want to hand a job to someone else, but believe that being responsible means personally checking every detail. Delegating then conflicts with your own rule. More instructions for the other person will not settle that conflict.
That is the sort of question I examine in EntreprenHERO. I call it your map: the rules and interpretations you use to decide what makes sense. In my ImprendiHero workshop I work through five parts of that map, including the stories you tell about your past and the people you take as examples.
On this site you can try the exercise on personal rules. Write one down, look at where it helps and where it conflicts with what you want. Keep the page if you want to discuss it with me.
Five parts of your map.
- Possibilities
- Choose something you would like to do. How possible does it seem? What is that judgement based on?
- Rules
- List the rules you try to follow. Check for a conflict with what you want, with the evidence or with a rule you use in another part of your life.
- Symbols
- Think of a person who represents something you admire, or something you want to avoid. Which choices become attractive or unacceptable because of that example?
- Metaphors
- Finish this sentence: “My business is like…” Then examine what the comparison implies. If you describe work as a battle, for example, who becomes the enemy?
- Stories
- Pick an event that influenced you. What happened? What did you conclude from it? Does that conclusion affect a choice you are making now?
An example
“I must check
every detail
myself.”
Where does
the rule help?
Checking may be necessary for a task where an error has serious consequences. For another task, checking every detail may prevent the person doing it from learning to work without you.
Write down an instance of each. If you cannot find one, leave that part open. You are looking for evidence you can examine.
Try the rules worksheet →Individual coaching
with Piernicola.
In coaching we can go further into the rule you have written down: what it means to you and what happens when you follow it. We can also examine the other parts of the map. For example, a comparison you use to describe your work may lead you to accept some choices and dismiss others.
The work is individual, in English. We use situations from your own life as a business owner, so describe what actually happened and what you did. That gives us something to question together.
We discuss availability, format and fee before agreeing to work together.
Write to me about coaching
An enquiry can be a short email. Tell me which situation you want to examine and what you have already tried. You can include your notes from the worksheet if you want to.
Email Piernicola about coaching ↗The button opens an email addressed to me.
Use the worksheet before writing →